is a very blur and confusing subject in my mind.
And, whenever people ask if I am a feminist, I turn awkward and end up rambling a bunch of words that don't go well together.
See, the first image that comes to my mind when I think of "a Feminist" is a 40 something single woman, who's built anger and resentment towards men over the years of her celibacy.
She sounds a bit like that: "They did it to me those bastards, so now they're going to pay". And out of shame, she never mentions her saturday night #orgasm with the boy from the local pub.
Also, I think that a lot a women have lost themselves in the definitions of "feminism" and "women empowerment".
Let's try to see a little clearer here.
Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: the equality of sexes.
I do support the movement.
I mean, I owe my voting rights and SO much to the ladies that have come before me and who fought so that I could have a voice in my society today. Thank you, that's huge !
And although nowadays things are moving much faster, there are still a lot of work to do for female contribution to be valued and respected within our communities and societies at large.
But I don't follow on the "equality of sexes" thingo.
I feel that it tries to erase or "make homogenous" the beauty and richness of our differences.
I mean, we dont' have to be philosophers to agree that male and female's sex is different. Women have less testosterone than men, women have boobs, and men more facial hair.
Exactly like the physical attributes, I believe that there are many other spiritual and energetic differences between male and female.
The feminine energy is soft, calm, lunar, cool, dark, creative, intuitive, passive, internal, nurturing, emotional.
The masculine energy is solar, active, hot, external, competitive, dominant.
So to the "Feminists" out there: I don't want to be and act like a dude!
Let me be a woman, Women.
The word Power takes its root from the latin "posse" which translates as "to be able".
Empowerment is the process of supporting another person to discover their own personal power.
I had a friend telling me the other day:
"You'll get along so well with that girl: she is so E-m-p-o-w-e-r-e-d", while mimicking a big/strong girl.
It freaked me out a bit.
I'm like (duh?), "Did you ever heard of Mother Teresa? Colleen Saidman Yee or Simone De Beauvoir? Cuz none of these women fit the description you're making of empowered right now"
To be empowered doesn't mean to have strong muscles, to be the CEO of a big company, or to make big dulla.
Being empowered, doesn't mean to be on top while having sex.
There is absolutely NO rule as to what empowered actually looks like.
Being empowered is a spiritual path that takes oneself from victim mentality to becoming actor of their life.
It is a word on the rise in women consciousness because for years we thought of ourselves as victims of men.
And, like anything "real" in life, the empowerment process is free, available at all time and in abundant resource, these are:
- Speaking our truth
- And acting out ouf our highest values
But also, like any transformation and growth, it is a a challenging and scary process.
That's why most people prefer to stick to the comfort of their victim mentality.
It feels safe.
Empowerment is a call for Courage and for Trust.
Those are the people I look up to. They are my heroes, my Sheroes.
I meet them a bit everywhere along my journey: from the baker down the street who's just incredibly loving and compassionate, to Katniss Everdeen in The Hunger Games, Oprah, my friends.
And it is not a reward medal to be given only to our empowered sisters for showing us the way, there are as many incredibly empowering men in this world.
OH MY GOD.
I have it.
I'm an Empowered Feminist.
It's Tuesday, 8am and I'm going for a run and a yoga practice now.
Have a good day y'all.